You are the most beautiful around
Prettier than your friends.
Smile and sadness will pass
A miracle will find its way to you!
Your dimples on your cheeks
Raise the mood.
Smile urgently
My little fairy!
Evening comes, the city falls asleep, know that in this world you are dear to someone ...
I just want to say that for some reason I'm waiting for you, for some reason I miss you, for some reason I want to do something for you and for some reason I believe in you.
I don't know what's going on in my heart, it hurts even more than the time when I kissed you for the first time!!!
You have no idea how much this can cheer up a girl.
And given that almost any original gifts have now become available, it remains just to take it and do it.
An unusual date
It should be noted that you should take your lover's bad mood really seriously. The girl will be very offended if you show that you think she is overly emotional and unhappy with this. However, this does not mean that you have to be too serious. Make her laugh funny joke or anecdote, or offer to download some comedy. Perhaps watching it will quietly cheer up your loved one.
Talk to her and have pity on her
Maybe your girlfriend's mood is spoiled by a series of small setbacks. If she first stepped on her foot in public transport, then, leaving it, she stumbled, upon returning home, the mirror showed her mascara spread all over her face, just try to talk to her confidentially. Calm down your beloved, pat on the head and say a lot of kind words to her. Perhaps, having spoken out to you, she will feel relieved, and a smile will immediately play on her face.
Let her rest
If your girlfriend is studying, working or constantly doing something else, she can just get tired of it and break down at any moment.
It must be remembered that men should take care of their fragile lovers and allow them to rest sometimes. Take care of household chores and put your loved one to bed.
When she wakes up rested, she will be filled with pride for her boyfriend who went shopping, cooked a meal, washed the dishes and washed clothes.
4. Surprise her. Cook her something tasty or make delicious tea or coffee. She will feel your care and her mood will gradually improve. And best of all, bring it all right to her in bed.
If you really want to cheer up your girlfriend, just be constantly there, support her in all endeavors and try to distract her from pressing problems.
Constant dissatisfaction with yourself
Who knows, maybe your girlfriend has low self-esteem? Do you constantly listen to suggestions that she has problems with her figure or just her appearance? So, how to cheer up in this and other cases described above?
What to do if she is sad?
Many young people want to know how to solve such a problem as a girl's constant bad mood, as well as her displeased expression.
It goes without saying that there is no clear recipe for how to cheer up a girl in correspondence, but it’s still worth trying.
You have something incredible, unique, unusual, very gentle, charming, something that others don't have... You have me. Protect me:) 20
Honey, you know guys are like clockwork. Keep in mind, they need to be wound up every day! 16
In vain did you think that you
Sadness to face today! And for no reason
I thought of my own problems...
Here I am as your only man
I want to make you happy again
And I'm sending you a text message, loving you!
Why be sad! There's a reason for fun
There are always reasons to be happy!
Today is Sunday,
The weather is great like never before!
There is a reason for us to walk with you
And exchange our positive!
Probably, every guy sooner or later has a moment when you need to calm the girl down. The female gender is an emotional being, prone to experiencing various situations strongly.
Before you take any action, find out what happened to your friend. You must clearly distinguish 2 different situations:
- These can be simple whims with which the girl is trying to manipulate you.
- Something really happened to her. For example, family troubles, retaking an exam, etc.
When You Shouldn't Reassure a Girl
This is just the first case. For example, you did something, she pretended that she didn’t like it very much and started a scandal. The purpose of such whims is a provocation: so that you apologize, feel guilty, and, possibly, make amends for your “guilt” financially.
Try to look from the outside at your action, which caused such a violent reaction from the girl. If you think everything is fine, then it is. Do not give in to provocation and do not take any action. Next time, your friend will know that you are not into such things.
When should a girl be calmed down?
Talk to her, find out what happened. Sometimes, just sharing her problem makes it easier. Depending on the situation, proceed further: first, hug her. This helps a lot, because hugs make a girl feel protected and calm. Then, after you understand what the situation is, express your opinion on this matter.
How to calm a girl down with words
Try to look at her problem from an optimistic point of view and say that everything is not as bad as she thinks. Suggest a possible solution to the situation and let her know that you will support her in every possible way and will do everything possible to normalize the situation. Even if you do not know what way to offer in her question, nevertheless try to make it clear that the situation is somehow resolvable.
Use the following phrases in your conversation:
"Everything will be fine"
"You are not alone, you have me"
"You can always count on my help"
If the girl is not around, keep in constant contact with her through the phone, instant messenger, social network. Try to make it so that she had the impression that, despite the distance, you are next to her. Tell her that if she gets uncomfortable again, she immediately called you, and you will support her.
How to calm a crying girl
A crying girl just needs to be hugged tightly, and in this position to stay with her up to several minutes. While she is crying, it is even better not to say much while doing so. In your arms, she will calm down pretty quickly, and then you can talk to her.
How to comfort a girl
To make your girlfriend feel at peace, first of all, you need to take non-verbal actions. That is, those where there are fewer words. To do this, use hugs, touches, kisses, strokes. In the room where you are, create a peaceful atmosphere: close the curtains, light an aroma lamp with essential oil (it perfectly calms the psyche). You can do water procedures - take a bath together.
After the girl came to her senses, you can go out into the fresh air for a walk, go to a cafe. This will help to change the situation and distract from different thoughts.
Is your girlfriend upset and you don't know how to help her? How to deal with her tantrum? How to calm a girl to restore her peace of mind? Such questions are asked by many men who at least once witnessed a female hysteria.
Algorithm of actions to comfort a girl
The first step is to express sincere interest in the problem that led to the tantrum. Women are very sensitive to insincerity, so if you really want to help your soulmate, delve into her experiences. Find out why the woman is upset. Finding out the cause will help you quickly find a way out of the situation. If the problem is fixable (a quarrel with a friend or misunderstandings at work), then you can console the girl by telling a funny anecdote or a funny story from life that will be appropriate at the moment.
If the cause of hysteria is more serious, such as the death of a loved one, there is no room for jokes. In such a situation, one should try as delicately as possible to calm the woman, to find the appropriate words that will help to distract from grief. Try to find out as many details as possible. In this way, you can better determine how to calm a crying girl, what words to choose.
After establishing the root cause of the girl's bad mood, try to find out what she wants at the moment. If she says she needs to be alone, give the girl that opportunity. Some people find it difficult to express their emotions when someone is around. Sometimes women can only calm down if no one is around. This makes it easier to take control of yourself. But there are times when a girl talks about the need for loneliness, in fact, not experiencing such a feeling. She just doesn’t want to burden her with her problems or is afraid that you will see hysteria in her face. In this case, you need to be more attentive, try to help the girl, even despite her protests (because sometimes it's just a veiled call for help). Most girls need affection and tenderness. Soothing hugs, backed up by a kind word, are the best medicine for girls. Using these simple tricks, you can quickly stop the tantrum of your soulmate.
Another important point that the female soul needs is the opportunity to speak out. A woman will calm down faster if she finds an attentive interlocutor who is ready to listen to her experiences. In such a situation, it is important not only to be a listener, but also to periodically ask relevant questions. Do not be distracted by extraneous matters, look at the girl, do not wander around the room with your eyes. In this way, you will demonstrate sincere interest, which is so highly valued by women. The representatives of the weaker sex are not easy to circle around the finger, they feel insincerity, and this can cause another storm of emotions. In addition, by expressing her feelings, the girl can verbally voice the way to solve the problem. If you are extremely careful, you will notice this moment. Then it will be much easier for you to calm the woman down.
Are you trying to calm the girl down? Do not downplay her problems, otherwise you risk becoming her enemy. Even if it seems to you that the situation is not serious, keep your opinion to yourself. A dismissive attitude to the problem can cause additional bouts of anger (especially in hysterics - girls prone to violent manifestations of emotions). To quickly end the tantrums, say a lot of soothing words to the girl. If she cries, hug her and kiss her. Tactile contact will help relieve tension, hysterical sobs (if any) will turn into calmer sobs, and then completely disappear.
Sometimes, in order for a woman's heart to calm down, it is enough to let a woman cry. After all, almost all the fair sex is very emotional, from time to time they need to release. Believe me, being a girl is not at all easy, sometimes a hysterical state rolls in, a woman loses her composure and just needs affection. In this case, you just have to wait for her to let off steam, calm down.
Comforting a girl in the distance
If a distance separates you from a distressed woman, then it is more difficult to console her, you need to make more efforts. Thanks to the development of computer technology, every guy has the opportunity to support the girl, express sympathy and participation. How to calm a girl with words from a distance? First, be attentive, listen to her problem (if you contact her by phone or skype). Do not record the interlocutor in hysterics if she reacts aggressively to your participation. It may just be a defensive reaction. Secondly, be patient, as it may take time to establish the cause of a bad mood. Support the girl in every possible way, say that she is very dear to you.
If you are communicating with a woman by correspondence, not being able to hear each other's voice, choose your words carefully. In addition, you can use cute pictures as a means to cheer up. You can also send links to videos during correspondence that will help cheer up the girl. Such gentle signs of attention will surely bring a woman out of a depressed state. To consolidate the success, you can use the services of a flower delivery service. Any representative of the fair sex will be pleased to receive a bouquet, such a gesture will certainly cheer up a woman.
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Look, admire, enjoy
Let innocent, but repent -
The life of a man is full of excitement. Stress at work, conflicts at home, in society, complex attitudes to life, obligations - life is in full swing, but everything is out of place. And it seems that only everything has calmed down, as fate presents new surprises. But the stronger sex does not give up! Rushing into battle with renewed vigor.
And then she shows up...
Light, soft, feminine. On clattering heels, in a short skirt, with a perfect manicure, or in jeans, with a careless whirlwind on her head, in sneakers, blonde or brunette, or maybe even fiery. So different, so necessary and long-awaited. And a strong, brave, intelligent man turns into fondant.
It seems that everything is solved, it is no longer so difficult to understand what you want, what to do, how to live. Problems are rubbish! After all, she is near! Darling.
Time flows, happiness fills, thoughts are free, everything becomes easier, calmer. But here…
There comes a day when a girl cries.
And you have only a stupid and uncomprehending expression on your face, and a dumb question: What to do? Feelings hit by a dump truck! Familiar? Vital.
Like in the movies
Of course, in the movies it's different. The hero always knows what to do, what to say. Knows how to calm a girl in difficult times. In the movies, she would probably walk in the rain, but wet from salty tears, all beautiful, like a dream. Soaked in a stream of tears, the hero would take her by the shoulders, hug her tightly, pulling her to him. Their lips would meet in a long kiss. In a minute, the heroine will forget the reason for the tears, and in the next frame, the heroes will have a baby. A good story for lovers and romantics.
In life, everything is somewhat different. Everything in life is real, really. And tears, and pain, red eyes, drool, screams. Not enough for a minute.
Step by step
What is the difficulty, for a young guy or an adult man?! What does she mean to a girl? Each gender has its own scale. What seems like a trifle for the stronger sex, for the weaker half can become a real threat to health and psyche.
A girl by nature is more sensitive, emotional, difficulties do not temper her, but kill her. She may not die physically, and survive stress today, but tomorrow she may wake up as a completely different person. In moments of life transformations, under the pressure of troubles, without support, the girl changes the principles of behavior and attitudes, and those who are outside the limits of change may simply not get inside. But there is a chance, and there is time. There is nothing better than attention.
How to calm a girl? Need to participate!
Participation can be active but not intrusive. You can’t bother a girl with conversations and advice, when there is already a full head of information. Then how to calm a girl down?!
The words must be special. Sometimes one or two phrases, or a sentence, means everything!
for instance : I'm here! I'm with you as long as you need!
Intonation is very important!
Exciting conflict and a sense of misunderstanding, phrases:
At the beginning of a difficult period, this is a red rag for a bull. These words often cause aggression, and psychophysiology is to blame for this.
The brain of the female half of humanity is very complex, and loves complexity. If one part of the hemisphere works for a man, then both parts work for girls. This does not mean that the fragile floor is smarter, but in many ways it is more capable. Thanks to the interaction of both hemispheres - logical and creative.
This means that everything that enters the girl's brain, except for analysis, must be played, as if in a theater. Little funny. The female brain will not play a role until it can understand the essence in order to realize, accept and heal. Therefore, external suffering - tears, crying, hysteria are so important.
And do not follow the phrases above, try to pacify the processes of the female brain that have not reached the goal.
An example for understanding the female state by the male psyche at the moment of the onset of experiences.
The (brain) logs (information) are put in the stove, the spark of the match kindles the fire. The fire began to catch the pieces of wood (information), but the air duct was blocked (the exit of negative energy and the concentration of pain). Smoke rises around (feelings of misunderstanding), smokes (rudeness, screams, resentment). As a result, everywhere is covered with soot, the fumes are carried through the air, the stove has to be cleaned.
On this easy example, the psychological moment is explained. Serious state of affairs. After all, not having the opportunity and time to realize, all the pain and anger can be sent to a nearby person. Natural protection against overload of the nervous system, in the form of a release of negative energy.
Based on the availability of knowledge in this matter, it is easier to adjust and make the right move. As a rule, at the first stage of experiences, a girl needs not an interlocutor, but a vest. You don't need to talk much, you just need to be there. Don't look at your watch, don't rush, don't look tired. All attention should be directed to the sufferer, and not to one's own routine of life, at least at this moment.
Have a heart to heart talk with yourself
Finding out the reasons, or trying to support a girl in a difficult time, you need to be prepared for the fact that you are used as a pillow for tears, a vest, or another soft and dumb surface. Sometimes it is enough just to sit next to and on the head or on the back. This seems strange to a person who does not know physiology, but secrets can be revealed a little.
There are important nerve endings on the head and back. Not without reason, when children are naughty or crying, their mothers stroke their heads and backs. It calms and relieves stress, it becomes easier, and sometimes you even want to sleep. It's a little trick. Therefore, when it’s bad, they go to their mother, she will stroke, calm and give her warmth. Guys rarely use this method, but in vain! You need to take it into service so that next time you know how to calm your girlfriend.
If a girl starts talking, you just need to listen. No need to add something, or give examples of your troubles, and ways to fight. This rarely helps, because you can forget yourself, and just start feeling sorry for yourself and your memories. And all attention should be paid only to the girl.
Loneliness
Often, when trouble occurs, the female sex turns into a child. As a little girl or woman, age does not matter, she wants to hide in a corner so that no one touches or asks anything.
How to be?!
In no case do not persuade anything! Otherwise, you can stumble upon a door slamming in front of your nose.
You can just participate, if this is a girl’s house, in making coffee, tea, and preparing something to eat. Take not by word, but by food. This, as in men, is quite effective. After a big loss of energy, you often want to have a bite to eat, but you don’t have the strength, and the girl lies or sits hungry. It's not scary if tea and a sandwich are standing, and the girl refuses to eat. After a short period of time, she will still develop an appetite looking at them.
Suitable phrases:
Having depersonalized himself, discarding his interests, a man will become more reliable. Girls like it when a guy thinks more about her than about himself.
It is unacceptable to pronounce words like “should”, “must”.
At the moment of sadness, sadness, panic or hysteria, a girl owes nothing to anyone! Her inner world is directed into the problem, into the depth of experiences. It is also not necessary to impose obligations to comply with the “should” statement. She can only wish.
Trust Service
Reassure a girl from a distance quite difficult. Even harder soothe a crying girl. The thought that you are not around, and she is so defenseless, alone, drives some people crazy.
Whereas?!
You need to be a psychological help service on the phone. A guy or a man should listen carefully to the notes of the voice so as not to miss dangerous signals.
You can't save money on calls!
If a man wants to switch off faster, no matter how polite he is, the girl will understand this. If she calls, then she needs a man. Nature does not tolerate emptiness, and if you do not answer, you can no longer wait for the next case, the girl will choose other ears, and another goal. Girls' struggles often play into the hands of guys on the ignore list. It is worth getting closer to the object at the moment of its weakness, and you can get a reward. The guy reassures the girl, in gratitude she opens her soul, and even her body. Unfortunately, there are those who take advantage of this. So if your loved one is calling, you should drop everything and click on the green icon so as not to get a red one.
You can not use phrases in a conversation:
(female translation in brackets)
What do you have there? (thinks I can't have anything important)
Again? (considers a walking problem)
Yes, be quiet! (considers aggressive)
So what? (thinks it doesn't matter)
Not understood? (not interested that he doesn't even listen)
Lets go faster! (hurries to get rid of)
Any rude expressions are also unacceptable, you need to restrain yourself in a conversation.
How to calm a girl with words from a distance:
Yes, I am here!
I'm listening to!
Speak up, it's important!
I'm sorry I'm not around!
Don't think about me, you're more important!
It's hard for you, and I'm far away, my fault.
I want to be around.
All phrases are aimed at support and trust. The girl feels that she is neither indifferent nor alone, she has a strong back.
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Calm down a crying girl from a distance difficult, but possible - to cry.
For a woman, there is no greater relief than getting rid of internal stress through bitter tears. Even with a swollen face, she will feel better, freer.
If yesterday the difficulty is insurmountable, then tomorrow there will definitely be a way out.
It will be good if, within a week or two, the guy takes care of even the smallest chores - he spends or drives to the place of study of work, or just walks around the city. You can bring food, help around the house, even if there is no work, you can always come up with a reason to fix something, show skill and care.
Walks by the lake, river or in the park, among trees and nature, help a lot. It will seem strange to men, but girls often cherish even the worst memories. They need to be nostalgic! Therefore, a park or a river can be a great place to let go of difficult thoughts, or remember them. Nature is endowed with amazing power and the ability to take away human sorrows and let go of hearts.
The girl cries, the guy calms, and life goes on ...
Sincerely, Anzhelika Melnik
Knowing how to calm a girl with words at a distance if she is angry, offended, or just not herself can not only help save her nervous system, but also save relationships if they are worth it.
A set of simple but powerful rules can be compared to first aid skills, because an angry or desperate girlfriend can turn into a real problem.
How to calm a girl down
Many girls like to cry or throw a tantrum just to get their boyfriend's attention or out of fear that he's decided to leave her. If there is a suspicion that this is the case, it is enough to give her a little of your time.
- Even if a couple is separated by distance, you can talk on the phone, because a pleasant gentle voice, a gentle word can quickly return both to a good mood;
- Some people prefer calling. VK correspondence strewn with hearts and kittens, her photo stored on the phone, or a romantic clip with a love song can do a miracle;
- If the cause of the tears is more serious, but it is not related to the guy, the girl probably wants words of comfort and strong hugs. Sometimes it is enough to listen to the story and take her side, to say that she is well done, and everyone else is jerks;
- A very important point is to know for what reason a friend or acquaintance can cry in principle. To do this, you need to learn to listen and hear not only words, one voice can often understand what is happening. A girl can be very sensitive if she cries after a sad movie, seeing an abandoned kitten, or after the release of a crime chronicle. In this case, apart from a strong shoulder and the phrase “everything will be fine”, nothing else is needed.
How to understand why a girl is upset
But in order to correctly navigate the situation, you should always directly ask what happened.
- If a girl does not want to talk, the reason is probably related to the guy. It seems to her that he does not love her, is cheating, does not consider her beautiful ... Sometimes she may cry, deciding to part with the young man, but pitying him and pleasant memories. In this situation, the sooner you can understand what's wrong, the better for everyone. Friends, social media walls, blog posts, tweets, photos can help.
- If the guy himself wants to leave his girlfriend and at the same time stay on good terms with her, you should not reassure her day after day, continue correspondence in VK, speak affectionate words and listen to her experiences. Having fallen out of love, she will certainly be ashamed of her weakness and humiliation, and can hate only for this. It is better to calmly talk to her in a soft, but not too gentle voice, not to succumb to any persuasion, but following the decision made, retire some distance and wait until time solves all problems.
- Also, before proceeding to consolations, it is advisable to assess the seriousness of the situation and the peculiarities of the girl's temperament. Very "hot" young ladies lose their temper instantly and in this state you can expect anything from them. Having caught fire, they cool down just as quickly, after which you can already talk to them calmly.
- The more phlegmatic ones will observe the situation and wait for the development of events, they may be offended or angry the next day, having “analyzed” the situation in their mind. They will not break the dishes or run away into the night forest, but they will also “depart” and cry for much longer, in a bad scenario - several days or even months.
Ideally, to be successful, you need:
- know how to calm a girl;
- understand the reason why she is worried;
- evaluate the strength of her anger or sadness, taking into account the peculiarities of temperament;
- stock up on patience.